Co-Worker Comments that suck!

[leighmundo40]

So, there I am, nearly 12 months after ditching the system and slowly, slowly getting accostomed to life with a number 1 grade buzzcut, kind of doing Ok.

Yesterday, was going to a big local show with some friends. A group of co-workers were also going, but not together. I get a text message asking whereabouts I was, so I text back with "Uhm..Here, near the, blah. blah. blah" I recieved a text back saying "Don't worry, Ill just look out for the bald spot!"

Ok, a flippant comment, meant in jest, but it REALLY pissed me off! Why do people feel that they can objectify others by their looks? I joked it off, because outwardly, that's what I do. But I bet there would have been a different reaction if I had said "It's ok, Ill look out for the droopy boobs!"

Im just having a little pity party today! Tomorrow Ill be fine! Just wondering if anyone else have had any similar experiences?

[Beardman]

Hrmm... I probably have, but I can't really get bent out of shape when I always make a joke about how my head is like a beacon!

I can understand where you are coming from though, because I feel the same when people joke about cutting my beard off(either them doing it or doing it myself).

I know it is hard, but it is best just to just keep doing what you are doing, they don't understand how it affects you, and well whenever I make a big deal out of it, it always seems to end in them getting huffy at me because I told them it offended me... what's up with that? haha... Lucky I am such an easy going guy I guess

[Paul the Headblader]

let me ask you something. in the morning. when you make your daily plans, do you say ' I will do anything to please the others, but me', or you are like ' this is me, I do it for me, because it eliberates me and. makes me happy'? which one of two?

[4fit]

Leigh, your doing fine as for the woman she may have some sensitivity issues. Like Beardman said I reference my bald head frequently. I love the look, feel and freedom. That being said I know some guys have not reached the point of totally embracing the slick bald head. Some never will, and I totally respect that. The important part is finding satisfaction within yourself. Whether it be hair down to your butt cheeks or a slick scraped grape if you like it , then its all good. You may choose to shave slick in the future and if you do your next text will probably read, " dont worry, I'll just look out for the great looking guy."

[leighmundo40]

You now, up until now, Ive been reasonably fine!

I think it's a British thing! Can get a hundred compliments and brush them off as "whatever! dont believe it"

Then one off the cuff stupid comment and the world ends.

I wont let it show that it narked me.

Glad there is a place to piss and moan though!

[LatinCoffee]

Leigh,

Don't give your joy away to anyone...no one deserves it but you. Not everyone is going to like how you look and there may be others that like it.

At work, I get girls that call me 'handsome and cutie' and some guys that play for my team that like it, too  but I'm sure there are some that don't  even look my way...I'm  fine with that, too! 

Hope you're  feeling better.

[Hingatao]

I had a similar experience back in June with a cab driver but I was like "whatever".

[Slynito]

Went to a restaurant yesterday and the owner always greets me. He has a shiny bald head with thick fuzz around the sides. I've been trying for ages to encourage him to come out into the light and shave it all...I pointed to my head and said, "how do you like my hair"?

You could have text back to your friend...look for the handsome guy with the beautiful head.

You can always try to beat the sh*t heads to the punch but making fun of yourself, in a proud and confident way. G'luck!

 

[Sir Harry]

Leigh, as a guy that's your age, my favorite statement that I live by is "Don't entertain stupidity, let stupidity entertain you!" But if you were looking for a comeback just for the hell of it, I would have said "Be careful and look for my bald spot at your own risk....it's been known to blind people!" I personally would have taken the high road and just ignored her...

[Paul the Headblader]

dude

.be who you are, say what you feel, because those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter

[Frontier Guy]

I recieved a text back saying "Don't worry, Ill just look out for the bald spot!"

And this person's comments are important to you why?

We so often let other people's thinking (and insensitivity) take priority over our own. That's just crazy!

[stasiu]

You're okey !  Those casual insensitive comments are part of the road to baldness.  I used to get comments like "dang, couldn't you save any from the shower drain."  or "better start wearing ball caps to prevent sunburn" (in the winter).

[leighmundo40]

Thanks guys, appreciated everything that you said and totally agreed with you all.

As a singer once said "Life is a rollercoaster"

Normally I just brush off stuff, and yeah, Why does that person's opinion matter to me!!

[Andrei]

leighmundo, you can chose your friends but not your co-workers.
I'm sure that text message is not the worst thing you have ever heard from a colleague.
Definitely didn't cheer you up, but don't let it bring you down either.  It's not worth it.

[leighmundo40]

Yeah Andrei, you are right. Time to man Up and get a grip! Rrraaargh!